How Being in a Sorority Changed the Way I Think About Friendship

Being in a Sorority means more than just attending parties...

Friendship – in college, it’s a major issue, as you will be separated from many, if not all of those that were in your inner circle in high school.

Sororities are a wonderful solution to this problem, as they supply an environment where dozens of like-minded individuals will be living in close proximity to you.

This closeness produces more than just friendship – it is an incubator for sisterhood. This is more than just a meaningless platitude, as normal friend relationships just don’t have the benefits that sisterhood offers.

Not just friends, but sisters

Going into college, I thought that joining a sorority was just a great way to meet new friends. To be certain, affiliating with a Greek letter organization is a wonderful way to achieve those ends, but my pledge period and my first semester as a newly initiated sister awakened me to a new reality.

I wasn’t just making new friends by joining a sorority – I was being initiated to a family beyond my biological one.

This fact was hammered home the second I was introduced to the tradition of giving and receiving sorority big little shirts and gifts.

The first moment my Big made it clear she thought of me as a sister rather than as just a friend, I was able to differentiate between various levels of female-female companionship.

Being a guiding light to those around us

Being in a sorority introduced me to the concept of being a leader. Rather than just being content with going with the flow, I started to look for ways to lift up the people around me rather than just seeking out ways to further my own ends.

Once you learn to embrace total strangers not as just friends, but as sisters that you would do anything to help, you can’t help but view other human beings in the same light.

In the workplace, on the street, at the gym – I view any woman willing to engage with me not as a stranger, but as a potential sister with whom I can build a strong friendship with.

Using my past experience, I can help them with aspects of their life with which they are struggling, and I can open my mind to learn from their example as well.

In a sorority, you learn the value of selflessness, as without the consensus of the group, you can do little and therefore, you are little.

Together, however, we can achieve great things and we can be perceived as great.

Not just during college, but for life

When I was first considering joining a sorority, someone in my dorm told me, you might have a good time with these girls, but just like us in the dorms, these relationships will fade away as you pursue your career.

To a degree, she may be have been accurate, but comparing unaffiliated women I knew next to the sisters I spent my undergraduate career with, I can honestly say I have spent more time with them post-graduation than my independent friends did with each other.

Lunch meetings quarterly with local sisters, annual get-togethers with those further afield, numerous weddings spent as a bridesmaid (and my wedding? What a time that was!) – my time after college has been made richer thanks to my sisters.

Without them, my life would have been so gray.

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Is That Individual Worth Dating?

Whether you are a woman or a man, online dating can be a blessing or a nightmare.

As individuals turn to the Internet to meet someone, there should be the least bit of trepidation.

What someone says about themselves on the worldwide web can be very different from who they are.

How much time and effort will you invest in doing an online search or two of the person you might be most interested in?

Know as Much as You Can Before Dating

So that you can know as much as possible about an individual before dating them, consider these tips:

1. What will the Internet tell you?

For starters, do your best to know as much as possible about them.

No, you’re not a detective, but that does not mean you shouldn’t do some research here and there.

Is it in the back of your mind that someone you’re talking to online may not be telling you the entire truth? If so, what options do you have in front of you?

One option of course is to end the conversation and move along.

Another is to do a criminal records search.

In that search, you can find out if someone is withholding certain information from you. Most important would be that they in fact do have a criminal record.

While a few traffic tickets are not a big deal, domestic violence, robbery and other such offenses are.

2. Listen to them 

Face it; many folks had to listen to someone go on and on about themselves either before or during a date. In all honesty, it can get pretty boring in a hurry.

That being the case, you should still look to pick up on certain statements.

For instance, does someone show contempt for people of authority? If so, that could be a warning sign that they are not respectful of others.

An example of this being a red flag would be someone who talks bad about their employer.

Yes, while many people have issues in the workplace, most people are thankful to have a job in the first place. As such, bashing an employer or co-workers can be more than your everyday frustration.

While you can’t always focus on every said or written word, do your best to listen and look with attention.

In the end, doing so could save you much time and frustration.

3. You get what you paid for

As using the Internet to buy items may not always pan out; joining a dating site comes with ups-and-downs too

Always remember that you get what you pay for.

On the one hand, you could end up meeting the person of your dreams by dating via the Internet.

On the flip side, it could turn out to be a nightmare at the end of the day.

You may find that meeting someone through friends, work, even church would be better.

For all those married couples out there, it had to start somewhere, right?

That said many of them could likely share a dating nightmare or two.

As such, don’t feel bad if you go through a bad date or two along the way to finding your true connection.

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Top Reasons To Use A Chat Line

Are you currently on the dating market? If so, you’ll quickly realize that there is an abundance of ways to find a date. You can easily go online and find love on a dating website, but that isn’t always effective. Or, you could remain old fashioned and find someone in person. Wouldn’t it be nice to be able to find a partner in a much easier manner? Wouldn’t you like to feel safer when meeting someone for the first time? Here are a few reasons to try a chat line from the experts at Chatline Connect.

Amazing Conversation

The main reason for using a chat line is the fact that it’ll give you the ability to have amazing conversations with others. Whether you wish to chat with someone nearby or faraway, you can guarantee that you’ll find someone interesting and passionate. That individual will keep you talking and talking for hours on end. You’ll experience far greater intimacy than what you would from a simple online chat. Over the phone, you can ask questions rapidly and get the answers even quicker. This ensures a better conversation, while simultaneously allowing you to learn more about the individual in question.

One of the top reasons to use a chat line: you may meet your person you've been searching for

Anonymous And Safe

Another thing to remember is that chatting on a phone line is totally safe. With this type of arrangement, you will be able to remain in control of your safety and anonymity. You will not have to disclose your name and personal information until you’re absolutely ready to do so. And more importantly, the chat line will allow you to feel out the candidate on the other side of the phone. When you finally feel comfortable with this individual, you can open up your heart and agree to meet in person.

No Photograph Needed

The Internet has made people far more superficial. When attempting to date online, the first picture you post will make it or break it. And, a lot of men and women do not like the idea of showing their picture to millions of people around the world. By using a chat line, you will be able to completely avoid this dilemma. Instead of creating a picture profile, you will be able to create an audio profile. This will give you the ability to tell others about yourself and your interests. By using this type of platform, you can guarantee that the dater will actually like you for you!

Fun For Everyone

At the end of the day, chat lines can be tons of fun for everyone involved. Whether you’re a man or woman, you can rest assured knowing you’ll easily be able to find someone fun and interesting to chat with. In fact, this type of platform can be enormously advantageous for everyone! You do not have to be a dater in order to take full advantage of a chat line. Just log on whenever you feel like it and spend hours and hours chatting with someone totally unique and interesting.

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Tips For Maintaining Healthy Relationships (Literally)

 Maintaining Healthy Relationships is possible to do via activities such as running

You’ve met the girl or guy of your dreams, you’ve hit it off and you want it all to be perfect. You want to do what you can to make it last – a healthy relationship is a good relationship, and the stronger and healthier you can make it upfront, the better you have of sticking together. Plus, you want to stay healthy, literally, in your life to enjoy it.

Here are a few tips to help you and your partner find that health relationship and stick with it. Also, the plus about going the healthy track with someone you’re interested in, you can support each other!

Be Safe in the Bed

It’s a new relationship- passionate, exciting and you really can’t keep your hands off of each other. But remember other hands may have touched, too. Be healthy with this new relationship, and keep your sex life safe. Part of this entails telling each other about any health issues regarding sexually transmitted diseases. You don’t have to reveal all of your past partners or past history, but be honest, especially in regards to any STD’s or past risky behavior. Be safe in your actions, too. Use condoms. For variety, take a look online. Yes, you can buy condoms online, and thought your new relationship may not need spicing up; you can still check it out.

Exercise Together

Maybe you are an avid exerciser – you love to get up early and bike on a Saturday morning or hit the gym every night after work. Or maybe not. Maybe your new girlfriend or boyfriend loves to exercise – or hates it. Either way, getting into an exercise program is so much easier with someone, and it can do wonders for your health. The fun thing about getting involved with exercise with your significant other – you can try new stuff. Maybe she’s into yoga, but you’re into rock climbing. Give each other’s thing a try. You never know – you may be one the grabbing your yoga mat and heading into crow pose before you know it. You can also do fun dates together that incorporate exercise. Go for a fun hike or take the dog for a walk, run a 5K together or do some hot yoga. The more fit you are, the more it opens up the things you can do together.

Eat Healthy

Just like exercise is something fun to do together, so is healthy eating. From shopping to cooking, a healthy meal can be an amazing date. You can take it a step further, and hit the farmer’s market early in the day, bring your yummy finds home and prepare a romantic meal together later. It’s a fun, healthy way to spend the day. You can also go on dates to new, healthier restaurants instead of your usual pizza place. Again, things like this can be much more fun with someone you enjoy being with. Exploring new foods in fun ways is a great date as you are getting to know your new partner better.

Encourage Each Other

Even if you’re not eating every meal or spending every free moment together, you can encourage each other to be the best each of you can be. In the excitement of a new romance, everything seems new and fresh. It’s a great time to gear into good health. Think about how much better you feel eating healthy, or how much more energy you have getting more exercise. Maybe one of you is already there in a good healthy place; bring the other one with you. It’s easy to slip into each other’s habits – choose the good ones. You can also encourage each other to make other healthy choices – stop smoking or drinking too much, get that check up from the doctor, let go of stress.

A new relationship is amazing – and maybe this is the one. If it is, you want to start with honesty and good choices – from sex and past behaviors to current habits and healthy choices. Enjoy each other, and encourage each other to be healthy and be around for each other for a long time. Leave your old baggage behind, from your bad eating habits to old, unhealthy relationships and enjoy this new one!

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