Divorce is an unfortunate fact of life which takes place on a daily basis and it can be a very upsetting and emotional time for everyone involved. Most at risk throughout these proceedings are children and the separation of their parents can leave scars which can stay with children forever. The damage of a divorce on children can manifest itself in many different ways and it can very easily alter the course of your child’s life, if not managed in the right way.
If you are going through a divorce at the moment, here is how you can best help your child to come out of the process as unscathed as possible.
Everyone on Board
In order to manage your child’s emotions in the best possible way, you must ensure that everyone who is involved in these proceedings, has the child’s interests at heart. Regardless of what your relationship is with your partner, or soon to be ex partner, you must make sure that you are both on the same page regarding your child’s wellbeing. It is also important that you hire excellent family lawyers who have a wealth of experience in divorces and can offer you excellent advice and support throughout the process.
Create an Open Environment
Children are not stupid and you should never treat them as such, they will know that something is going on and you should not hide the facts from them. This is not to say that you should expose your child to all that is going on but they should be aware of the reality of the situation. It is your responsibility as a parent that you create an open environment with your child that will make them feel comfortable asking the questions which they have in their heads. If a child feels as though they cannot talk about what is going on, they will have many unanswered questions, draw conclusions which may not be true and they could even push emotions down, something which will not be helpful for them.
Whilst a divorce is a completely abnormal situation, you need to do your best that your child is living as normal a life as you possibly can. Make sure that the school run remains the same, they still do the things that they normally would and general create as little upheaval as you can when it comes to your child’s home life. This is not always easy but if you want to best protect your child, you must try to aim for the most normal life for them as possible.
Don’t Air Your Laundry
Whether your relationship with your child’s other parent is amicable or aggressive, you must never speak badly about them in front of your child. Doing this not only sets a bad example but it also puts your child in the middle of both parents, something which can never end well. If you have ill-feelings towards your ex-partner then either keep it to yourself, or make sure that your child is not around when you are discussing it.