Can You Trust the Person You Are Dating?

It goes without saying that the dating world can be a little tricky to navigate at times.

With that thought in mind, how trusting are you of the person you are seeing now?

In the event you have your questions about them, it is best to put everything out there on the table. Doing so can make for less tension and let you know if you should stay or go.

So, how trusting should you be when dating someone?

Is the Individual in Fact Available?

One of the trickier pieces of the puzzle in dating someone is making sure they are totally available.

As an example, someone may say they were married for a period of time and are now officially divorced. There is also the chance they say they are in the middle of divorcing someone.

So, are you going to be satisfied with the answer they give you?

One thought is to get online and in fact see if you can find out some evidence one way or the other.

As you can go online if divorced to find out how do I get a copy of my decree absolute, use the web to see the one you are dating.

While you hope they are upfront about being divorced, they may be keeping something from you. That something could also be information outside their divorce status. For example, what if they have a criminal record and you stumble upon it while online? Would you still consider dating them moving ahead?

By doing some online research, you are one step closer to finding out if the person is on the up-and-up or hiding stuff.

Will Finances Come into Play?

Depending on how far along you are in dating someone, the talk of finances may or may not come up.

In the event it does come up, are you going to be in a good position to have the chat or chats?

If you’ve been dating this person for a while now, they may show some interest and you may too of combining resources. This more times than not would mean moving in together.

Now, you may not feel you are at that point where you want to do such a thing. In fact, it could take years for you to get there.

That said you want to be careful. This would be so that you do not end up in a financial bind do to another person’s not being totally honest with you.

Last, you also want to know what kind of character the person you are dating has.

Sure, while you may see some things early on, other actions may take a while to rear their heads. The last thing you want is to be caught off guard by one’s behavior so much so it leaves you questioning dating them.

Along with how they act around you, you can also see if they have any notable trail of social media activity. If so, the hope is they have not posted any questionable comments or images over time.

In trusting the person you are dating, what will make you think twice about moving on with them?

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Is That Individual Worth Dating?

Whether you are a woman or a man, online dating can be a blessing or a nightmare.

As individuals turn to the Internet to meet someone, there should be the least bit of trepidation.

What someone says about themselves on the worldwide web can be very different from who they are.

How much time and effort will you invest in doing an online search or two of the person you might be most interested in?

Know as Much as You Can Before Dating

So that you can know as much as possible about an individual before dating them, consider these tips:

1. What will the Internet tell you?

For starters, do your best to know as much as possible about them.

No, you’re not a detective, but that does not mean you shouldn’t do some research here and there.

Is it in the back of your mind that someone you’re talking to online may not be telling you the entire truth? If so, what options do you have in front of you?

One option of course is to end the conversation and move along.

Another is to do a criminal records search.

In that search, you can find out if someone is withholding certain information from you. Most important would be that they in fact do have a criminal record.

While a few traffic tickets are not a big deal, domestic violence, robbery and other such offenses are.

2. Listen to them 

Face it; many folks had to listen to someone go on and on about themselves either before or during a date. In all honesty, it can get pretty boring in a hurry.

That being the case, you should still look to pick up on certain statements.

For instance, does someone show contempt for people of authority? If so, that could be a warning sign that they are not respectful of others.

An example of this being a red flag would be someone who talks bad about their employer.

Yes, while many people have issues in the workplace, most people are thankful to have a job in the first place. As such, bashing an employer or co-workers can be more than your everyday frustration.

While you can’t always focus on every said or written word, do your best to listen and look with attention.

In the end, doing so could save you much time and frustration.

3. You get what you paid for

As using the Internet to buy items may not always pan out; joining a dating site comes with ups-and-downs too

Always remember that you get what you pay for.

On the one hand, you could end up meeting the person of your dreams by dating via the Internet.

On the flip side, it could turn out to be a nightmare at the end of the day.

You may find that meeting someone through friends, work, even church would be better.

For all those married couples out there, it had to start somewhere, right?

That said many of them could likely share a dating nightmare or two.

As such, don’t feel bad if you go through a bad date or two along the way to finding your true connection.

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