Being married is one of the hardest relationships that a person can be in. While you likely love the person you married more than anyone else on the planet, that doesn’t necessarily mean that things are going to be easy for you in your life together.
For many marriages, things don’t end up working out long-term. And while there are things you can do to bring a marriage back from the brink, some relationships are just better to be left to run their course.
If you’re wondering whether your floundering marriage will be able to stand the test of time, here are three signs that your marriage is headed for divorce.
You Find Excuses Not To Spend Time Together
At the beginning of a relationship, any time spent apart can seem like torture. But if you’ve found that you’re starting to enjoy the time you spend separate from your spouse, this could be a sign that things aren’t going well.
According to Stacey Feintuch, a contributor to Reader’s Digest, the time you spend apart from your spouse doesn’t necessarily have to be negative on your marriage to present a problem. Even if you feel like you’d rather be at work, watching shows on your own, or spending time with friends and family, this could have a very big impact on your relationship with your spouse, which could lead to a rift in your marriage.
Evidence Of Contempt In Your Marriage
How you think about and communicate with your spouse can be a big indicator of how long your marriage will last. One of the biggest threats to your marriage in this way, according to Marni Feuerman, a contributor to PsychCentral.com, is feelings of contempt.
When you or your partner does or says something that puts one of you above the other, this is a sign of contempt. This type of behavior could include things like mocking each other, name calling, rolling your eyes, or using hurtful sarcasm or humor. With contempt in your marriage, things like love, respect, appreciation, and kindness will quickly be eaten away at.
The Majority Of Your Feelings Are Unhappy Ones
While there are bound to be times in every marriage where feelings get hurt or unhappiness sets in for one reason or another, if you start to find that you or your spouse are feeling unhappy in your marriage the majority of the time, this could be a sign that a divorce is imminent.
According to Bela Gandhi, a contributor to Today.com, most couples can ride through the little fights or disagreements. But once you start feeling like these are the rule and not the exception, things can start to go downhill fast.
If you’ve noticed any of the above signs or symptoms in your marriage, you may find yourself closer to a divorce than you realized.
